Build the confidence to live the life you want (because your main obstacle is you)

“We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.”

–Carlos Castaneda

Written at Bros Beans & Beats in Zurich

Your main obstacle to living your wildest life probably won’t be other people; it’ll be you. Or more specifically, it’ll be your fear.

Fear is a sneaky beast and you can’t always trust it. The quotes are right: the thing to fear really is fear itself.

If you have big dreams, which you absolutely should, you’re going to need big courage to chase them.

You will develop a confidence so deep that you’ll know you’re exactly where you need to be. You’ll have complete faith that brilliant things are just around the corner, heading your way.

When you want to live life on your terms, other people are probably going to doubt you and tell you that you’re crazy. Don’t join that pack.

Sure, you need to be sensible and not throw all of your security, reputation, and money off a cliff edge. But when you know at your core what you want, you need to stand firm on that.

Set yourself the task of being the security guard for your own mind. Know when the negativity is creeping in and shoo it back out again. If you want to travel the world, you can find a way to make it happen. If you want to be rich, you can get there. If you want to build a house with your family, you can do that.

Some things will be at the expense of others and some of your initial goals might directly contradict each other. But as the author of your life, you get to decide the right formula and balance. Once you know what you really, really want, you’ll be halfway there.

Be ruthless but gentle with your self-doubt. Slowly escort it out the room, each and every time you notice it. You know you’ve got this.


Develop your confidence every single day. Recognise when negativity is creeping into your mind. When fear turns up, smile at it and continue working towards your goals regardless.

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